two lives, two stories, helpful words and advice appreciated

[alisha+1]

Hello and thanks for clicking, you must have some interest in helping people which Is what i need. My name is Alisha, I am 24 years old and currently live with my parents. I have a very positive attitude and outlook but right now I'm struggling. I quit my job before Christmas and I did not have another one lined up.. A lesson I am learning the hard way.. I have has two jobs that have not worked out, my grandmother passed a year ago this Christmas and I still haven't really felt with it besides numbing the pain. There's a little about me, now my friend who I'm really concerned about.

Justin is 20 years old, x military, going threw bankruptcy. He lives at home with his parents. A father who he can talk to but a mother who is... We will just sum it up as abusive. Justin is in a bad mental state of mind. Now I know I'm not responsible for him but I care about him and I for for his life. Not because of his mom but because of him self.
We are attached at the hips and we are both struggling, we have no possessions, we have no money and a poor mental state. I know I will get threw this in time but that doesn't change how I feel now or how he feels now and I just don't know what I can do. How are you expected to get a job and since back and forth to that job when you have no money to put gas in your car to get there.. Is there help out there to be had? Am I just not looking hard enough??..

Thank you for your time and blessed be.

[CrazyLady17]

Hello,

Warm welcome to this formus.
Yes we are a lovely bunch who help each other out through tough times

It can be hard when we lose a job yes, but life won't always be this hard. Just believe that god will heal your sadness and one day you will feel so much better.
How you ever considered maybe doing some volunteering somewhere for a few hours a day?
Could be helpful and also could help you keep your mind distracted maybe?

I hope you are well soon.

Take care.

(((Hugs))) x

[alisha+1]

Thank you crazy lady and yes I have done volunteer work in the past but I don't have money to get back and fourth to job interviews much less animal shelters or food shelves..

[CrazyLady17]

You are welcome
Ah.. Is there a shelter not far from you? So within a walking distance? Did the volunteering work help you in the past?

[alisha+1]

No I live out in the country the only place within walking distance is the river and corn fields lol. I enjoy doing volunteer work but right nowi just don't have the money:-(

[CrazyLady17]

Ah yes that is not good...
What about doing some fundraising? And then whatever you make that can be towards volunteering somewhere?

[Frame]

Hi alisha+1;

If we think about what happened in the great depression we may see some parallels.
This the Great Recession but what's in a word?

Jobs are very hard to find. I believe what CrazyLady is saying is that you can't give up and I think she's right. You must keep working, money or no money. But it's not a matter of you not working hard enough. Peoples expectations are not being met. It doesn't matter how are they work. You have to work hard (because that keeps a body strong) but not harder than you can. You also need to try to take care of your health.

The second parallel is that I'm hearing how much harder it is out in the country. In each depression or recession there is a wave of people moving to the cities. It's not easy there but the distances are closer. There is more opportunity. So I think it's worth considering even if it seems hard. You are one of a number of people posting here about the difficulty of commuting to jobs and interviews.

I hope this helps.