Getting things off of my chest

[Guest27]

Every since I was very young, I have always been very shy. I am very bad at talking to people. I know that I shouldn't but I do care what people think of me, even when I say that I don't. I know that has to do with my low self esteem. The sad thing is I don't know myself very well. I just realized that no one does because I don't have friends either. When I was in high there were people that I was cool with but I can't say that we are friends because we never hung out outside of class. I figured in college things would be better. It has not, in fact, it's gotten worse. I really have no one to talk to which is why I'm on this website, and I feel like no one cares. I'm only 22 but I feel like I'm 50. Life is going on and I'm sitting still. I was supposed graduate this year but I got behind in classes and I'm not passionate about my major which is why I'll probably change it and I'll be in school another eight years accumulating so much debt before I'm able to join the "real" world. I am so stressed out about. Lately, I just have nothing but self pity. This whole summer all I have done is go to work and come home and sit in my dark room. I'm sure if anyone can help but I just needed to say something because I can't speak to anyone else without being awkward.

[Alaska1958]

Hi there.

First off let me tell you that you are not alone in feeling this way. A lot of us have. Finding a place for ourselves in the world is quite a challenge. To find friends who will, not just accept us the way we are, but love us as we are is hard. If I may, I would suggest that you get out and try new activities in the hope of meeting new people. Going to work, then being alone inside is, as you probably already know, not very healthy for you.

I don't know what percentage of the population feel alone and unloved at your age, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was close to 50 percent. It does get better. You're always welcome here.

Good luck