On the edge

[Cmg123]

I'm on the edge of loosing the lot. 42 years old and everything is going pear shaped. Last November lost my dad, two weeks after lost my grandad then was hit in head with a hammer in an armed robbery.

I ran a successful business for the last three years and I am having to sell as depression has kicked in and I can't even get out of bed to go to work.

Don't want sympathy just a magic bullet to change things as the only way at the moment is downward.

[Pilule]

What happened, depression happened out of nowhere? Did you suffer from it before? How long?

[Cmg123]

Never had depression just started about 3 months ago and my life has fallen to bits. Came from nothing to running a great business and may even loose my house now if this carries on.

[Pilule]

Is it all these events that triggered this depression?
Are you sure it's not something with you health?
Did you see a doctor, a psychiatrist, a therapist?

Don't let it all go just like that. You're still young, you have time on your side.

[Cmg123]

The doctor put me on anti depressants but they seem to make it worse.

I have had a very hard 10 years working all time and I lived with someone who has there problems but lived with it for kids. Think the recent events have pushed me over the edge and I can't stop it now. Feels like I've had my time and just don't want to carry on

Sounds week I know but from what I've read that seems to be a pattern for depression

[Pilule]

I've said it before, depression makes you week, not the other way around. Depression robs us from the very things we would need to beat depression. Or the things we want and can't get gets us depressed.

It seems that your mourning the loss of your father and grand-father. When my father passed away, I thought, being depressed, I would never get over it but I did. It took a couple of months but I did. I was still depressed but not because of my father's death anymore.

It seems to me that when we loose somebody, whether we're depressed or not, we come back to our normal state, not better but not worst.

[Pilule]

By the way, there are a lot of anti-depressant to try out there. Few people are successful with the first anti-depressant they try.