Stuck

[love my dogs]

I have been diagnosed with clinical depression from my psychologist and have only had one visit. I have been to counselors before, but the talk therapy hasn't sustained helping me. I think I have dealt with depression most of my life, I am 50 years old and a mother of a 15 year old. My new psychologist wants me to do EDMR and cognitive behavior therapy. I have been separated for almost 3 years, go to court end of this month to complete the dissolution. I am still stuck in my depression and loniless, I don't do anything with friends, only have one good friend, have pushed the others away. Some days I don't want to do the work that it takes to make myself better. Thanks for reading.

[Frame]

Thanks for Posting.

You have friends here; no that's not premature. As you continue to read and post, you will find many people speaking in words your soul can understand. Your in one of the most stressful periods of your life, a 15 year old daughter and a divorce. I've had both but, Good Lord, not at the same time.

The only advice I presently have is; try to treat yourself gently, if not just for yourself then because your daughter is watching. Let her know your in it for the long haul; take frequent emotional and spiritual breaks. You deserve them. You have what it takes.

[love my dogs]

Thank you for your kind words. My 15 year old is a young man, sorry I didn't mention his sex. Doing better today, got out for a while.

[Alaska1958]

I am 55 and just going through a divorce now. For months I had the divorce papers, but could not bring myself to deal with it. My wife's attorney has filed for a default judgment since I am non responsive which will mean she will get everything she wants. I am angry about it, but also feel powerless to cope. I am unemployed and can't afford an attorney.

Sorry, I shouldn't make these posts all about me. I have two boys aged 10 and 13. They are the light of my life and the most important thing I want from this divorce is 50/50 custody.

I have had several dogs and cats over the years and they really can help a lot.

I do worry that my kids will be too much like me (I'm a long term chronic depressive), but as far as I can tell they are going to be their own unique selves.

I hope you can make some good, new friends. Friends can be a great comfort and help bring us out of ourselves. Try to get out and try some new activities, volunteer at a nonprofit or something else that will get you involved with something to occupy your min. Not that I'm that great at taking my own advice. When I lost the job I'd had for 16 years I started driving cab. I came to realize that all those years where I spent all day interacting with a control board or a computer were really bad for my mental health. Cab driving couldn't compete with the remuneration or the benefits that I had been getting, but it was much better for my mental condition. Even with that said though, I still spent a lot of days and nights laying in bed, too depressed to get myself up.

Good luck to you from the far north.

[4EverMe]

Hi love my dogs,
I'm glad you decided to get out. This should give you some respite, and if you're able, you should indulge more often! You do deserve it, after all. I'm sorry life is depressive and hectic. Are you currently on any meds for your depression? I've been on a couple meds that were beneficial to me in the past. Something to consider. It's good you've got the dogs! Animals are very healing and uplifting!! I don't have a dog of my own, but I used to have friends w/big dogs. Was fun rough-housing with em!. Boy, they can sure get you laughin!! And they can sure bring life back into you. Wishin you the very best! Keep us posted. (pun intended) lol