being strong and confident

[finding the right path]

Hello to all of forum users who like myself want to branch out and speak of our thoughts and hope we can relate to someone the same.

I have felt low for some while now had a bad experience in a long relationship that I felt I had done something wrong but I have meet a wonderful man now who wants the best in me, but its letting him in to my thoughts he makes me happy but I do let the dark times in that I know he doesn't want to see in me and I hate showing it, I want to be able to be a confident woman that I know I can be.
At present I found it hard in jobs of being the best I can be and showing my boss I look back when I get home and see myself doing so well but wonder why I cant show that in my job I am only temping as my last perm job I was breaking up with my ex and couldn't cope working so I left my job and depression kicked in but since then I haven't feel comfortable in any job....

Are their other people out there who feel the same as I do, please reply back so we can build on happy thoughts

[Frame]

Hi finding;

The first thing that comes to mind is; I know what it's like to want (to need) to be at my best and just not be able to live up to my own expectations. I can erode anyone's confidence. But I think it's very important to, at least set a goal to, except the fact that we are humans are simply not always at our best.

Actually, as much the world would like to make us feel bad about it, the vast majority of us are often not even close to our best. It seems to me that, each day, the world does more to ensure I get further from my best.

So, here's the thing; I know there are bad times and there are worse times. There are good times and there are better times. If you hide your flaws then at least two things happen: You spend a lot of time hiding, which can damage more than just your confidence. You and your partner cannot truly share that time together.

It may be scary to share flaws; it is for me (that's why I'm mostly alone). And it's true that your partner may not be able to handle it. But when would you rather find that out? Because if you stay together, eventually he will: that or you grow apart not together.

[Frame]

Oh, one more thought; it's OK to be struggling with this, it's the right think. Anyone that expects you to push it away, not deal with it, ignore it... their not helping. And people close to you should be willing to help.