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by BrokenPen
Sun Nov 22, 2020 3:30 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: Is the relationship toxic and abusive despite the depression?
Replies: 1
Views: 3699

Is the relationship toxic and abusive despite the depression?

(warning: some things may be triggering here. Not sure if they are but fair warning.) I've been posting here at Depression Understood for a while now. First with my own fights with depression but mainly with my girlfriend. She and I have been together for nearly 5 years and we were planning on getti...
by BrokenPen
Sun Jul 12, 2020 2:40 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Please help. I need help with my girlfriend.
Replies: 3
Views: 5668

Please help. I need help with my girlfriend.

For a long time now, my girlfriend has been suffering from depression or perhaps bipolar and now things have gotten to the point that now that she has a plan to end her life. Her plan involves basically going to Belgium and going through medical euthanasia. Unfortunately despite everything I've done...
by BrokenPen
Sat May 23, 2020 10:27 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: A moment of weakness and frustration
Replies: 2
Views: 1756

A moment of weakness and frustration

Recently, my girlfriend and I received some bad news. Namely that our apartment has bed bugs. This had really set my girlfreind on edge to the point where she felt so disgusted that she didn't want to sit down anywhere. But after a while through the day, things seemed to have calmed down a little, e...
by BrokenPen
Thu Feb 13, 2020 1:23 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: How do I be better?
Replies: 3
Views: 2749

How do I be better?

If I might ask everyone, you've all given such great advice for the issue I have with my girlfriend before but now I want to ask another question: How do I be better with her? This morning, we got into this discussion and I realized that I haven't been the best as far as being a significant other wi...
by BrokenPen
Tue Jan 28, 2020 9:45 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for all your advice. Just wish I had your calm when things took an extra worse inch last night. We got into another argument after she fell into another bad bout. It started with her despairing over getting home. You see she takes the bus since she doesn't drive. But after getting...
by BrokenPen
Sat Dec 14, 2019 11:18 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: Being asked an impossible question
Replies: 2
Views: 3380

Being asked an impossible question

In the various forum posts that I've made here about my girlfriend and how she has depression and possibly bi-polar, whenever she gets like this she often asks me a question that is both unfair and impossible to answer. The question she asks me is, "with someone suffering as much as I am, would...
by BrokenPen
Sat Dec 14, 2019 5:22 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for the words that you've shared in this post. I've tried to push through these bad times but often the bad times do come back. Such as recently, things looked like they were getting better. My girlfriend was employed but then it started to go down hill from there because the job ...
by BrokenPen
Tue Oct 22, 2019 1:37 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Hard Situations
Replies: 3
Views: 5979

Hard Situations

It's difficult to figure out how to start this. And I know that a lot of this may make me sound ungrateful but I can't help but wonder if these situations are hurting me. First of all, I want to preface all of this by saying that I have, at least I think I have, Asperger's Syndrome (or Autism Spectr...
by BrokenPen
Wed Sep 25, 2019 1:09 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for your support. I wish that I could say that things have gotten better but the truth is that it hasn't. Just today, she reached another depressive slump. It began with the news that someone won the mega millions. And this kind of started her into her depressive slump because she...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 21, 2019 1:49 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

Perhaps just say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I’m here to stay. So you are stuck with me.” Or maybe, “nobody can predict the future, but I’m here now, aren’t I?” The former statement is more reassuring whereas the latter statement is making a rational and factual ...
by BrokenPen
Sun Sep 15, 2019 12:27 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

That is really tragic. Perhaps remind her that there is so much in life that she can enjoy beyond just work and money. Work and money are only a small part of our lives—at least they should be. Do you think her priorities are centered on a career and material riches to feel validated? It sounds lik...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 14, 2019 11:19 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

Re: An evening that went very bad

Hi BrokenPen, Sorry to hear about your situation. With depression and bipolar, you get your emotional swings, ups and downs. Sounds like she is having one of those down moments. Even if you need to sleep on the sofa for weeks or months, so be it. But whatever you do don’t give into her self-defeati...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 14, 2019 3:41 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 16
Views: 9782

An evening that went very bad

Some of you may know my previous posts talking about how my girlfriend suffers from Bipolar Depression. Well, recently, things took a pretty bad turn. She always wanted to be in software development. But she can't get the funds together because she already has student debt. So she found this program...
by BrokenPen
Sun Aug 11, 2019 1:50 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.
Replies: 4
Views: 3604

Re: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.

Hi BrokenPen, Does she have any formal supports (e.g., a counselor) in place? There will be an ebb and flow, some days will be better than others. The main thing is that she just has a treatment plan in place (therapist, medication and/or natural treatments, etc.). Depression has a habit of sometim...
by BrokenPen
Fri Aug 09, 2019 1:10 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.
Replies: 4
Views: 3604

My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.

Some of you remember me from another post when I said that my girlfriend needs help with depression. For a while it almost looked like that she was about to get help. She was even starting to look for other jobs. There was even hope of a job that she really really wanted. Then this previous Tuesday ...

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