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by BrokenPen
Thu Feb 13, 2020 1:23 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: How do I be better?
Replies: 2
Views: 418

How do I be better?

If I might ask everyone, you've all given such great advice for the issue I have with my girlfriend before but now I want to ask another question: How do I be better with her? This morning, we got into this discussion and I realized that I haven't been the best as far as being a significant other wi...
by BrokenPen
Tue Jan 28, 2020 9:45 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for all your advice. Just wish I had your calm when things took an extra worse inch last night. We got into another argument after she fell into another bad bout. It started with her despairing over getting home. You see she takes the bus since she doesn't drive. But after getting...
by BrokenPen
Sat Dec 14, 2019 11:18 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: Being asked an impossible question
Replies: 0
Views: 981

Being asked an impossible question

In the various forum posts that I've made here about my girlfriend and how she has depression and possibly bi-polar, whenever she gets like this she often asks me a question that is both unfair and impossible to answer. The question she asks me is, "with someone suffering as much as I am, would...
by BrokenPen
Sat Dec 14, 2019 5:22 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for the words that you've shared in this post. I've tried to push through these bad times but often the bad times do come back. Such as recently, things looked like they were getting better. My girlfriend was employed but then it started to go down hill from there because the job ...
by BrokenPen
Tue Oct 22, 2019 1:37 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Hard Situations
Replies: 1
Views: 564

Hard Situations

It's difficult to figure out how to start this. And I know that a lot of this may make me sound ungrateful but I can't help but wonder if these situations are hurting me. First of all, I want to preface all of this by saying that I have, at least I think I have, Asperger's Syndrome (or Autism Spectr...
by BrokenPen
Wed Sep 25, 2019 1:09 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

Thank you everyone for your support. I wish that I could say that things have gotten better but the truth is that it hasn't. Just today, she reached another depressive slump. It began with the news that someone won the mega millions. And this kind of started her into her depressive slump because she...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 21, 2019 1:49 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

Perhaps just say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I’m here to stay. So you are stuck with me.” Or maybe, “nobody can predict the future, but I’m here now, aren’t I?” The former statement is more reassuring whereas the latter statement is making a rational and factual ...
by BrokenPen
Sun Sep 15, 2019 12:27 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

That is really tragic. Perhaps remind her that there is so much in life that she can enjoy beyond just work and money. Work and money are only a small part of our lives—at least they should be. Do you think her priorities are centered on a career and material riches to feel validated? It sounds lik...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 14, 2019 11:19 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

Re: An evening that went very bad

Hi BrokenPen, Sorry to hear about your situation. With depression and bipolar, you get your emotional swings, ups and downs. Sounds like she is having one of those down moments. Even if you need to sleep on the sofa for weeks or months, so be it. But whatever you do don’t give into her self-defeati...
by BrokenPen
Sat Sep 14, 2019 3:41 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 15
Views: 1681

An evening that went very bad

Some of you may know my previous posts talking about how my girlfriend suffers from Bipolar Depression. Well, recently, things took a pretty bad turn. She always wanted to be in software development. But she can't get the funds together because she already has student debt. So she found this program...
by BrokenPen
Sun Aug 11, 2019 1:50 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.
Replies: 3
Views: 728

Re: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.

Hi BrokenPen, Does she have any formal supports (e.g., a counselor) in place? There will be an ebb and flow, some days will be better than others. The main thing is that she just has a treatment plan in place (therapist, medication and/or natural treatments, etc.). Depression has a habit of sometim...
by BrokenPen
Fri Aug 09, 2019 1:10 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.
Replies: 3
Views: 728

My girlfriend is going through another bad bout and I don't know what to do.

Some of you remember me from another post when I said that my girlfriend needs help with depression. For a while it almost looked like that she was about to get help. She was even starting to look for other jobs. There was even hope of a job that she really really wanted. Then this previous Tuesday ...
by BrokenPen
Fri May 03, 2019 6:18 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend needs help
Replies: 4
Views: 1193

Re: My girlfriend needs help

I am trying to make her realize how much she means to me. But I think her depression is from a pretty deep an existential place because she kept saying that even if she would go to therapy, what else would there be for her? She asked me that question so many times that I can't answer. Of course, I c...
by BrokenPen
Thu May 02, 2019 10:25 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend needs help
Replies: 4
Views: 1193

Re: My girlfriend needs help

I'm trying so hard to help her but no matter what I do, it doesn't help. In fact it makes things worse. She keeps going into these cycles of phrases.

"Don't you see? I can't be saved! I'm too broken! I'm a loser!"

And now she's talking about ending her life at the end of the year.
by BrokenPen
Fri Apr 26, 2019 10:01 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My girlfriend needs help
Replies: 4
Views: 1193

My girlfriend needs help

Hello everyone. I want to warn you that what I'm about to tell you may be triggering or it may be hard to read but I don't really know what to do. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman for the last three years but she's had bouts of depression. It's been pretty manageable but lately it's gott...

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