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Spleefy, Through research, I've found ways to help my anxiety, in ways that doctors haven't even thought of. I'm big on trying to use natural products (essential oils, etc) and they are things that doctors haven't even heard of before. They've helped tremendously. I am on medication, but I feel like...

Spleefy, He's not officially diagnosed with BPD- I came across the disorder while studying to prepare for my volunteer interview for the mental health agency and noticed A LOT of similarities. I agree with you, an official diagnosis is best, 100%. I wasn't sure, though, if researching the disorder a...

Spleefy, Do you know anything about BPD (borderline personality disorder?) I’ve been doing some more research and I think this might be what my friend has. He fits a lot of the symptoms: -emotional instability -insecurity -impulsivity -impaired social relationships -lack of restraint, -risk taking b...

Hello Spleefy! Thank you so much for checking in. I did talk to my friend over the weekend, to make sure we were still cool. He was surprised that I thought that we weren't. I explained that while I didn't expect to hear from him every day or see him all the time, it had been a while. He said he was...

Spleefy, That sounds like it was a wonderful friendship. Those are the best kind, where you get each other in such a way. It's good to treasure that in your heart. It's true, though. There's a lot here I cannot control and it's hard for me, because I like control. But at this point, I need to let hi...

Spleefy, Many thanks for all your kind words and help. And I appreciate the virtual hugs! They helped a lot :) I’m going out with some friends this weekend so that should help me out a little. They also offered really good advice for my situation so that gave me hope and some peace. They helped me s...

Spleefy, No problem! And thanks for the advice. I’m just feeling so helpless and stressed and I just want to know what’s happening. We used to talk a lot more and now those conversations are dwindling and I’m sad about that. I feel like I’m losing him as a friend and I don’t want to. Again, I want t...

Spleefy, Very glad to know I’m doing the best I can. You’re absolutely right though- I’ve only known him for four months. That can’t replace close friends. For some reason, I guess, in my brain, I thought since we almost dated, that would “fast track” me. But, especially with what his last ex did, I...

Spleefy, Once again, I thank you very much for your kind words. They're really given me a lot of hope and I always feel better getting a notification of a post from you. From research, I wasn't surprised to get a short answer; I was just grateful he replied at all. And while I do feel left out and I...

Spleefy, That’s probably true- my mom is just watching out for me. We have kind of a complicated relationship so she doesn’t always understand why I do what I do, which may be happening here. She doesn’t like that he won’t tell me everything that’s happening with his mom. I tried to say that he can’...

Hi Spleefy Thank you so much again for your kind words and comfort. They came at a good time. My mom took me to breakfast this morning and in our conversation, my friend came up. She said I might need to let him go. She didn’t like how private he is when it comes to sharing things with me, or how I ...

Sabio77, Thank you so much for your reply! In truth, I was the one hoping for a relationship; he hit on some hard times and then withdrew. And while I’d still love to date him, because he does have the qualities of someone I’d date long term, I recognize that he’s in a place where maybe he needs to ...

Hi Spleefy! Many many thanks for all of your thoughts and prayers- they truly mean a lot. I have not gotten to talk to my friend- he's stil on the backpacking trip with our university, but will be home in two days. I hope he contacts me. If anything, I just hope that the trip was good for him. (Our ...

Spleefy, THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of your kind words and support :) you truthfully have been quite helpful to me, in more ways than I can say. Just having your perspective and knowing I'm on the right track is so helpful. Interesting you should mention- I was in school to be a special education tea...

Spleefy, No worries about a double post- how kind of you to check in on things! I'm doing ok. I spoke to my friend on the phone Thursday, as he was leaving for a backpacking trip with our university the next morning. He did not sound good- it was a short conversation, because I just wanted hi to kno...