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by BenV
Wed Feb 13, 2019 10:52 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: My Thoughts
Replies: 7
Views: 1141

Re: My Thoughts

I'm a bit of the reverse. It takes a little while for me to fall in love. But I never can seem to let go after it is over. But I think that is an extension of how I am. When I make a real friend I am willing to hold onto those friendships too.
by BenV
Wed Feb 13, 2019 10:50 pm
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: New member here
Replies: 3
Views: 1024

Re: New member here

I'll address the couple living with you first. Sounds like your wife hasn't adjusted to life after the kids have become adults. Wants to continue to have someone to fuss over and she is using this couple as a means to do it. Maybe some people just feel they need to do more after they have already do...
by BenV
Wed Feb 13, 2019 10:35 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: what has become of me?
Replies: 4
Views: 864

Re: what has become of me?

You need to find your own way in life. Your parents, your in laws, your husband all tried to make you into what they wanted you to be rather than seeing the person you are. They wanted to make you an extension of their lives but it ended up removing you from yourself.
by BenV
Wed Jan 02, 2019 10:03 pm
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: Need advice
Replies: 6
Views: 1516

Re: Need advice

The first med I was put on was Prozac. Seemed to work pretty well. But after a while it seemed to wear off. So my doctor increased my dosage. Work good again, for a while. Then we upped the dosage again. Then again. Then the vivid nightmares began. Finally got so bad we stopped the Prozac and I swit...
by BenV
Sun Dec 09, 2018 12:09 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: My Dad
Replies: 3
Views: 1332

Re: My Dad

My dad was an alcoholic. He wasn't so bad when I was real little but by the time I was a teenager many evenings entailed him being drunk and having loud arguments with my mom. Mom finally got a divorce which was a difficult thing for her to do since she was a devote Catholic and that was something y...
by BenV
Sat Nov 17, 2018 10:24 pm
Forum: Expressions
Topic: I’ve Known for a While
Replies: 4
Views: 1915

Re: I’ve Known for a While

You wrote: "This is my light at the end of a long, dull, and painful tunnel, yeah? " I wrote a poem about a tunnel with no light from above and no light at the end... 36 years ago. 1982. Since then I graduated college. Got married. Had children. You wrote: "I already know it’s going t...
by BenV
Wed Nov 14, 2018 10:02 pm
Forum: Expressions
Topic: Comfort in knowing
Replies: 8
Views: 2876

Re: Comfort in knowing

Besides. If I can’t fight my way through it then I don’t deserve to come out the other side. I don’t think that way about other people suffering the same thing, just myself. I have sympathy for all of you and I want everyone to be fine. But if this hurts so badly then I must deserve it somehow. I’l...
by BenV
Mon Nov 12, 2018 10:34 pm
Forum: Expressions
Topic: Comfort in knowing
Replies: 8
Views: 2876

Re: Comfort in knowing

You are not alone in having felt this way. You could be describing the me from 35-40 years ago. But since then I'm been lucky enough to find someone who loves me, been married over 30 years and have raised two kids. Do I have a lot more friends now versus back then? No. But I also know that my perso...
by BenV
Fri Nov 09, 2018 9:12 pm
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: My boyfriend when he's deeply depressed pushes everyone away and ignores texts and calls
Replies: 5
Views: 3585

Re: My boyfriend when he's deeply depressed pushes everyone away and ignores texts and calls

I have great difficulty showing weakness toward my wife. That old fashioned code of honor that the man is supposed to be strong, the protector, the defender. So when my depression rears its ugly head I retreat from my wife rather than reach toward her for support. I think part of the issue is also t...
by BenV
Sat Oct 20, 2018 9:49 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: my life
Replies: 3
Views: 2558

Re: my life

It is possible to be friends with exes but it isn't easy and it isn't free of emotional danger. But you seem to have the right outlook approaching it. When relationship had ended for me it helped me to see what I learned and how I can apply it making myself better for when the next relationship came...
by BenV
Sat Oct 20, 2018 9:36 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: Depression After Breakup and Before
Replies: 5
Views: 2985

Re: Depression After Breakup and Before

Scarlett, I wrote what I wrote Thursday evening because of what happened on Thursday. But now I want to change what I wrote because of something that took place on Friday. Sometimes feelings are right. Even when they don't appear to make sense anymore. But that doesn't mean they aren't honest and tr...
by BenV
Fri Oct 19, 2018 11:34 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: my life
Replies: 3
Views: 2558

Re: my life

Maka, Are you physically able to work? Even if it isn't something related to the career your retired from or anywhere near to what you were making it might help not only your finances but provide something productive to occupy your time. If that isn't an option how about doing some voluntary work? H...
by BenV
Thu Oct 18, 2018 10:40 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: Hello
Replies: 5
Views: 2798

Re: Hello

You don't come off as an edgy teen. You come off as someone that is searching, looking to understand. I opinion is that as man has increased its knowledge and increased technological might that it is becoming more difficult to find contentment and purpose. Our minds, occupied with ever greater deman...
by BenV
Thu Oct 18, 2018 10:20 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: Depression After Breakup and Before
Replies: 5
Views: 2985

Re: Depression After Breakup and Before

Just joined and saw your post. (I just deleted a bunch of stuff about myself) I can relate to a three year relationship ending. I can also relate to still loving someone and wanting to get back together. In my case I'm talking about two different relationships. I hope you are able to see your relati...
by BenV
Thu Oct 18, 2018 9:38 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: The greatest story ever told
Replies: 1
Views: 2263

Re: The greatest story ever told

I went through a journal after posting and I realized I was off on the timeline. That lunch with the old girlfriend was in late 96 or early 97, not around 2000.

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