Sick of these words

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Imnothere
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Sick of these words

Postby Imnothere » Tue Oct 24, 2017 3:17 pm

I hate it when people say things like
"Be strong" (Depression is NOT a weakness)
"You need to stay positive" (Wow, I didn't know that, thanks for enlightening me)
"Stop thinking that way" (Next time you have a nightmare, I'll tell you to just stop having a nightmare)

Seriously. People saying such things to someone who confesses they're depressed clearly know nothing about depression. And sometimes words of ignorance are worse than awkward silence. Yes I know they usually say so out of good intentions, but then again the road to hell is paved with good intentions. And when I fail to appreciate their good will they're like "no wonder you're depressed, you're so negative." Geez.

Mynameiskitty
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Re: Sick of these words

Postby Mynameiskitty » Tue Oct 24, 2017 6:01 pm

You are so right.

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JonsDragonEyes
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Re: Sick of these words

Postby JonsDragonEyes » Tue Oct 24, 2017 7:21 pm

Hi there. I found a quote that made me think of you.


Your trauma is valid.

Even if other people have experienced " worse "
Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn't feel debilitated by it
Even if it " could have been avoided"
Even if it happened a long time ago
Even if no one knows
Your trauma is real and valid and you deserve space to talk about it
It isn't desperate or attention seeking... it's self care
It's inconceivably brave
Regardless of the magnitude of your struggle your allowed to take care of yourself by processing and unloading some of the pain that you carry.
Your pain matters
Your experience matters
And your healing matters
Nothing and no one can take that away --- Daniell Koepke


Love and hugs always to you
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that! -- Rocky Balboa

Imnothere
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Re: Sick of these words

Postby Imnothere » Wed Oct 25, 2017 10:50 am

@Mynameiskitty
Probably, because I have nothing left... just kidding. Glad I'm not the only one who think so.

@JonsDragonEyes
Such beautiful words. Thank you so much for sharing them.
May love and inner peace be with you always.


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