Depressed, anxious, lacking true understanding of myself

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rabbit88
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Depressed, anxious, lacking true understanding of myself

Postby rabbit88 » Wed Dec 12, 2007 10:54 pm

Hey, I am a 18 year old guy and for the last few years I have become extremely distressed and anxious about my appearance. I gaze at myself in the mirror on a daily basis, wondering how anyone could be born so ugly. I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb, that people are staring at my ugliness from every angle. Some people close to me say that I am not ugly but I feel that they are only saying this not to make me feel bad. I stare at the mirror for minutes on end in a kind of trance which I hope will end with me coming to assurance that I am not ugly. But that never happens of course. To get though daily life I continuously say to myself “I am not ugly, I am not ugly”, just to try and make the best out of my life. But by saying this I think it shows I am in a state of denial, it shows that I am actually ugly but I am trying to sweep the fact under the carpet. Is this true? , am I ugly or am I actually decent looking? Please assist me, I am trying to finally gain a true and honest understanding of myself. True Understanding of my physical appearance is something I have never had in my life and finding the truth, whether it be good or bad, is central to me. Thanks.

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Nykkytta
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Postby Nykkytta » Fri Dec 14, 2007 9:49 am

Hi there rabbit88,

First of all, I truly think beauty is something that mainly comes from within us. It's about who you are on the inside.

But I do understand that physical appearance can be of some importance, as it's sadly, a lot of times, the first thing that people notice (but not always...). This being said, I think you are very handsome. I think the longer hair style is very becoming of you also.

You are lucky to be so handsome, as many people are disfigured by accidents, or just born that way... you are fortunate to have what you do - now go flaunt it! :D

Take care,
Nykkytta

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Postby ButterflyKisses » Fri Dec 14, 2007 8:17 pm

hi Rabbit,

I don't think you have anything to worry about. Our self images are usually wrong. Our low self esteem's can get the better of us.

I do agree with what Nyk said. Be thankful for what god has given you.
"Life is not measured in the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away"

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