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My wife complains that I do not have the drive I use to. I agree with her and would like this to change. Not sure if its the Meds I am on or is it something else.

I take Cymbalta once a day, Tramadol 3 times a day, clozapam at night to sleep. And now (just this month) I am taking propranolol for my blood pressure.

It started about 6 years ago, with anxiety unable to sleep do to my heart pounding. I had every test done on my heart and then the docs said it was anxiety. So they tried a bunch of different meds over the years, I always had a lower back problem, then I fell off a latter and my back was never the same. Went through pain management the works Chiropractor. So now I take Tramadol with Tylenol to take the edge off. I seem to be on so many Meds. And Its seems my sex drive has just gone down hill. I read somewhere it also could be low T is that possible?

New to the forum I just had a lot to say.

Sometimes meds can affect the sex drive. If its becoming an issue you should probably share your concerns with your doctor. One to find out for sure if its the meds you are on, or to rule out any other cause.

StarsFallToo

Sex drive was (is, but now that I'm alone no one cares) a problem in my marriage too. It didn't seem to matter much which meds I'm on. Of course the fact that I get very little exercise and don't eat well either is bound to be part of the problem. Still, I attribute the bulk of the problem to my depression itself rather than the antidepressants.

Nice to see you around Alaska. It's been a while. How are you?

Alaska1958 wrote:Sex drive was (is, but now that I'm alone no one cares) a problem in my marriage too. It didn't seem to matter much which meds I'm on. Of course the fact that I get very little exercise and don't eat well either is bound to be part of the problem. Still, I attribute the bulk of the problem to my depression itself rather than the antidepressants.

My wife thinks its her and I kinda agree with you about being depressed. My problem is my wife was diagnosed with PD, and she wants to to enjoy herself now. No pressure!!!

I am the wife of an over-medicated man. Since he started taking BP meds we rarely have sex anymore. He switched to a different brand but it hasn't made any difference. The doc even gave him free samples of viagra- but they don't work if you don't take them, right? Anyhow, it is adding to my depression, loneliness and isolation. Feeling really insecure.

Hudson wrote:I am the wife of an over-medicated man. Since he started taking BP meds we rarely have sex anymore. He switched to a different brand but it hasn't made any difference. The doc even gave him free samples of *****- but they don't work if you don't take them, right? Anyhow, it is adding to my depression, loneliness and isolation. Feeling really insecure.

You sound like my wife, and that's not a bad thing. What would you have your husband do to make you feel better.
I was never the real romantic type buy I prepare all the meals. I help were I can with the laundry and I serve her. The problem is the time I spend with her is not the time she wants.
So I ask you again What would you have your husband do to make you feel better?

I love my husband very much, but what he says is that he no longer has any normal arousal. And I have tried to talk to him about this many times. I have offered to help him in any way possible. I know he feels bad/ guilty for letting me down, but since he doesn't make any conscious effort, i suspect that he has reached a "comfort level" where he's ok with it as long as he continues to express love in other ways. But for me, I really want to have the psychological/ emotional bond of sexual intimacy. What I would like him to do is just try to engage in intamacy, which he says he is afraid to do for letting me down. We are middle aged- so it is by no means a matter of youthful yearning. I just want to be able to jump my my hubby without it being a big deal. We have only been married a short while and before he went on the meds we had gangbuster sex.

Hudson wrote:I love my husband very much, but what he says is that he no longer has any normal arousal. And I have tried to talk to him about this many times. I have offered to help him in any way possible. I know he feels bad/ guilty for letting me down, but since he doesn't make any conscious effort, i suspect that he has reached a "comfort level" where he's ok with it as long as he continues to express love in other ways. But for me, I really want to have the psychological/ emotional bond of sexual intimacy. What I would like him to do is just try to engage in intamacy, which he says he is afraid to do for letting me down. We are middle aged- so it is by no means a matter of youthful yearning. I just want to be able to jump my my hubby without it being a big deal. We have only been married a short while and before he went on the meds we had gangbuster sex.

Unfortunately it sounds like me, and in my head I want to but it just never seems to be the right time for me.

I wish it could be different. I feel sad for him and bad about myself. I don't see it changing...