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anxiety over silly thing

Posted: Fri Oct 06, 2017 8:43 am
by tir
I've been depressed for a while regarding hair issues and lack of friends. I bought a brand new car. After 5 months i dropped key on door sill. I took it in to the most expensive prestigious repair centre in the area. They fixed the door sill but crashed it.

before i collected it I told my mother it would be damaged when I collected it. i knew that that would be something that would absolutely drive me nuts. I've been spending money trying to get the car back to how im happy with it but its got those jet wash windows in front bumper which are hard to paint

Before collecting it I thought to myself that if they damaged it then that would be a sign that life was telling me to go. So its not that I am suicidal about the car - its just that its the last straw as I knew I was the type of person it would happen to

I know other people have got way more serious issues. my girlfriends mom needs a heart operation.

So then I think i should not let it get to me and try and block it out but I cant. I just keep thinking about dropping the key over and over and over again. I get lower and lower and which upsets those around me and then I think I would be ok now and wouldn't be anxious and panicky if I hadn't dropped the damn key

I feel an idiot but my brain goes round and round in circles and I start scratching and picking at my scalp

I just keep thinking of all the peoples cars they had to crash they chose the one person least able to cope with such a thing

Re: anxiety over silly thing

Posted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:32 pm
by Jstar845
Hello Tir, Thanks for reaching out today. I know that you don’t deserve any of this to happen to you. I agree this car situation was not fair, but sometimes bad things happen to good people and to those that may take it to be more difficult. Sometimes we just say “why me” know that you are not alone. It’s understandable, that this has been tough and the other things you are facing but remember you are tough too. I admire your strength and I want you to continue to stay strong. I also know that you said you are depressed, suicidal, lack of friends, hair issues, girlfriend’s mom about to have heart operation. I see that all that you have been through you and your girlfriend can support each other and be there for each other through all of this. The worrying is causing you to pull and starch at your head please don’t do this. I will list some coping below to help deal with depression and to replace this.
I also know that your life is worth the fight. Please don’t hurt yourself. Have you thought about how your girlfriend and others would feel?. Please call these two numbers if you need them in the future the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It’s a 24- hour confidential hotline. They can talk to you when you feel this way and help with preventive measures. Also, you can call; The Samaritans it’s a 24-hour confidential hotline at (212) 673-3000. They help through anything. Hugs! Here is some coping for your depression. 1. Take a time-out- Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from problems helps clear your head.
2. Exercise daily- makes you feel good and maintains your health.
3.Slowly count to 10- Repeat and count to 20 if necessary.
4.Accept that you cannot control everything
5.Give back to your community- Volunteer. This creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress.
6.Talk to someone-vent and let them know you need help. Friends, family, doctor, therapist
7.Eat well-balanced meals- Do not skip meals and eat energy boosting snacks.
8.Take deep breathes- Inhale and exhale slowing throughout the day when you are feeling stressed.
9.Do your best- Instead of aiming for perfection which is not possible. Be proud of how close you get.
10.Maintain a positive attitude- Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
11.Write in a journal