~LOL~ It sure does!
My Dad & I were having a talk about safety, some time after I talked about the R & near R situations. Okay....
It was one of those things where I didn't know whether I should speak my mind or what....
Anyway, my Dad was telling me about bringing them by for him or even for the both of them so the people who want to roll with me could be seen (e.g. friends, acquaintances, boyfriends, whatever) & I just said, "But you all are prejudiced & have your biases.... I don't know whether I should bring them home because it's not everybody you bring home anyway."
My parents can be hard.... Oh man! However, I think I understand where it comes from, which is from them wanting the absolute best for me.
It's my life, though, & I know the reality I live better than they do. I keep telling them that if I am too choosy & picky, especially here where I live, I will end up by myself. It's not all the time that I want to be by myself. That is not to say that I am throwing my standards out the window because I'm not entirely. What I've tried to do is not sweat the small stuff & really look at the person for who he/she is. Aside from not being in trouble in the law/doing things to get in trouble with the law, doing things that endanger me & that, the rest doesn't really matter.
How I see it is that in the meantime, I should improvise & take out of a situation what I can & the good things that I can & to not be too uptight or too hung up on anyone.
I'm young, & I should enjoy/try to enjoy my life to a degree while I can, especially in my case. Usually, I am home. I'm not out on the street being common or whatever, & I haven't ****** down the place. I stay out of trouble. I think I'm doing good. Also, youth ain't gonna last forever. I'm already sorry I passed 18 & 21!
With my 1 acquaintance, I already know my Dad does not like him or has negative feelings toward him. My Mom doesn't like him either. Personally, I feel that both my parents would probably have a heart attack, if they only knew. They'd probably watch me & wonder if I needed my head examined, as well. I am pretty sure of it. Whatever, though.
I have been through enough dialogue with my Dad, where he gave his honest opinion about the person. When he spoke, he didn't know who my acquaintance was. I am glad he was forthright, though. With my Mom, she just gave him a look, when this whole thing started. I think she suspected something, but she doesn't know. The thing was.... when she gave him the look, she was laid up in a hospital bed & was in tremendous pain. He would check in on her, which helped ease my mind a great deal.
What I have done is to keep the dialogue going with my Dad because I'm pretty sure the day will come where he finally finds out who my acquaintance is. I'm not very worried about it. If my parents are upset, they're upset. I've always told them to go out & find me a man/keep an eye out for one. They didn't bring any that they thought was on the level or good enough for me, & one who was likable was bold enough to approach me. There you have it.
Maybe my acquaintance is actually my friend. Or maybe I actually love him. I really am not sure at this point, but it may become clear later. I know we get along well, & when I think about him & how he is, I can't help but smile + laugh. He's a sweetheart, but it takes a fine eye to see it, as well as taking time for understanding. (I will admit.... At 1st & for a long while, I really did not get him at all. It did click for me at some point, though. One thing that stands out in my mind is that he loves children & is kind to them. You know.... He loves people in general.)
This is too long....
Oh goodness....