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by Cactus.ly
Wed Jul 18, 2018 5:52 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Deleted
Replies: 5
Views: 5146

Re: Any advice on dating while struggling with depression?

Get some personal wins before you schedule a date, so you can build confidence and won't come off too needy or weird. You also need to work on trust so you dont come off as abrasive while you are desiring and requesting closeness. If you must schedule dates now, 1. make some choices ahead of time ab...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jul 17, 2018 9:30 pm
Forum: Your Story
Topic: I just don't want to be here anymore
Replies: 6
Views: 4977

Re: I just don't want to be here anymore

Your headline stuck out to me. It's how I feel as well. Is this what we want to participate in? I am sorry that you are stuck in this wave of unpleasantness. I do not know what to say that can help. It would be nice if we could schedule a suicide and not be called crazy but instead, meet with someon...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jul 17, 2018 3:53 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Deleted
Replies: 5
Views: 4235

Re: f*** Society!

I just wish I knew to say f em years ago. Instead of adjusting myself to pour water in a desert.
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jul 17, 2018 3:51 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Deleted
Replies: 5
Views: 4235

Re: f*** Society!

I still think you should take a chance on yourself and go back to school. Take a chance and apply to a school that has the right program for you. Getting accepted and getting the grants/loans isn't the point at the moment, just doing it is the point. I dont know if you do this already, but lean into...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jul 17, 2018 3:30 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Deleted
Replies: 5
Views: 4235

Re: f*** Society!

If you are working on bring a better person, just keep doing that because that serves you. If you know people suck, screw them. Being on the spectrum, one can be every linear, system-based person. When you dont have people looking out for you, have to know when the systems change in order to change ...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jul 17, 2018 3:20 pm
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Deleted
Replies: 5
Views: 4235

Re: Society!

There is meme that goes, "I don't think that I believe in karma. I see plenty of people who did me wrong doing just fine." Or something like that. But it's true. It seems that if you don't catch a wave of validation getting away with stuff, you get stuck behind. It's tough. We want justice...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jun 19, 2018 1:58 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Tuesday's little successes
Replies: 4
Views: 3684

Re: Tuesday's little successes

Thank you both; both of your posts touch on how setting and accomplishing goals can help ease depressive symptoms. It can be very difficult to initiate steps towards activities that provides satisfaction and validation. How do you do this when you are having trouble finding headspace to get out of b...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jun 19, 2018 1:46 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Depression Accountability – Friday
Replies: 2
Views: 2872

Re: Depression Accountability – Friday

Hi Jennypa, Thank you for your reply. I think there is much transformative potential in depression if one can move in its stillness and dwell there without self-harm. The power that holds us down can easily propel us to our heart's desire with the right set of triggers, within these feelings. My pro...
by Cactus.ly
Tue Jun 19, 2018 1:11 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Depression Accountability – Monday
Replies: 1
Views: 2428

Depression Accountability – Monday

Major themes I've been struggling with are feeling that I wasted the last five years of my life investing in people and things that didn't give back. Their careers have moved on, but all they did was take. Nothing has changed for me. In many ways, I feel worse off. Then personally, people expect me ...
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 3:52 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: (deleted content)
Replies: 5
Views: 3918

Re: I decided i would go back to college this year, but then decided to put that off.

This just happened to come in my uni mail yesterday. I thought about this thread. ________________________________________________________ Talk it out College is stressful. Life is stressful. Your mental health is something you should always take seriously, so don't be afraid to practice self-care a...
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 3:39 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: (deleted content)
Replies: 5
Views: 3918

Re: I decided i would go back to college this year, but then decided to put that off.

Ah, ha. I am sorry to hear that Lost-Soul. It makes perfect sense that you would feel this way starting school again, fearing that you will be out on a limb with no support. Even though you have a different living situation now, still have those fears. I am sorry there was no one there to sympathize...
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 2:59 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Depression Accountability – Friday
Replies: 2
Views: 2872

Depression Accountability – Friday

I hope everyone had a happier Friday. What did you accomplish against the weight of depression?

Of course, it will be Saturday by the time you read this, so feel free to reflect :)
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 2:56 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Anyone else undergoing ECT for depression?
Replies: 4
Views: 4581

Re: Anyone else undergoing ECT for depression?

Hello Janine, I totally get wanting to go to med school simply to improve oneself. I think about doing that too, and I am glad you've found peace. I also mentioned Michael Pollan's new book on a thread here recently, about psychadelics and treating depression. I am a believer in the power of fiction...
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 2:38 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Anyone else undergoing ECT for depression?
Replies: 4
Views: 4581

Re: Anyone else undergoing ECT for depression?

Hi DrHPA, Thank you for your reply. I am very concerned about the possibility of memory loss if I were to go undergo ECT treatment, given I am a writer and do a lot of work day-to-day in my head based on work there from the day before. This continues until ready to form something on "paper.&quo...
by Cactus.ly
Sat Jun 16, 2018 2:19 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: betrayal...and refusing it.
Replies: 10
Views: 6349

Re: betrayal...and refusing it.

Hi Pearl; I'm glad you got a therapist. Therapy, in general, is a good thing, but every therapist isn't a good fit for every patient who walks in. I've had to let go of some therapists. If you don't feel like you are growing, feel free to raise your concerns with the therapist (or parent/guardian/ad...

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