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by Spleefy
Mon Sep 16, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 6
Views: 66

Re: An evening that went very bad

Perhaps just say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I’m here to stay. So you are stuck with me.” Or maybe, “nobody can predict the future, but I’m here now, aren’t I?” The former statement is more reassuring whereas the latter statement is making a rational and factual s...
by Spleefy
Mon Sep 16, 2019 10:15 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: Lost with life: derealization/depression/axiety
Replies: 3
Views: 47

Re: Lost with life: derealization/depression/axiety

Hi PreKH I didn’t know what “tobacco dipping” was until I looked it up. Good on you for quitting it. We tend to replace behaviors or addictions with other ones, such as in your case with the tobacco then Japan and your girlfriend. Moving to Japan is a big step, so you obviously have some thinking to...
by Spleefy
Sun Sep 15, 2019 5:43 am
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: introducing myself
Replies: 5
Views: 64

Re: introducing myself

I know very well how terrifying it is. I was there. It could take me up to 3 hours just to muster up the courage to leave the house. I couldn’t even walk to the letterbox or take the bins out for collection for a period. Anxiety literally paralyzed me. It is horrible. But you are on the right track ...
by Spleefy
Sun Sep 15, 2019 12:56 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: how many of you americans won (or lost) a disability case?
Replies: 3
Views: 1091

Re: how many of you americans won (or lost) a disability case?

I’m in Australia, and you cannot get the disability support pension for depression. Doctors will just tell you to “get a job and be proactive”, I’m not kidding! I had several doctors tell me this! Things may be different now, though, since I was living with depression, but I doubt it. I was put onto...
by Spleefy
Sun Sep 15, 2019 12:36 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 6
Views: 66

Re: An evening that went very bad

That is really tragic. Perhaps remind her that there is so much in life that she can enjoy beyond just work and money. Work and money are only a small part of our lives—at least they should be. Do you think her priorities are centered on a career and material riches to feel validated? It sounds like...
by Spleefy
Sun Sep 15, 2019 12:16 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Have I been stupid for NOT taking the meds?
Replies: 2
Views: 48

Re: Have I been stupid for NOT taking the meds?

Hi Wired, Good job for thinking on your situation. Many people will just take medications without a second thought, putting complete trust into a doctor in hope that he knows what he is doing. In my opinion this is a mistake! Nobody is going to care about your health more than you, so you need to be...
by Spleefy
Sat Sep 14, 2019 7:03 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: Life taught vs Life learned
Replies: 1
Views: 104

Re: Life taught vs Life learned

Yep, we do live in a system of things that is based heavily on selfishness, greed, cruelty, and all kinds of viciousness. All we can do is just treat people the way we want to be treated. And I learned it is essential to raise our own standards and values that is closer to God rather than subscribin...
by Spleefy
Sat Sep 14, 2019 6:33 am
Forum: Family and Friends of People Living with Depression
Topic: An evening that went very bad
Replies: 6
Views: 66

Re: An evening that went very bad

Hi BrokenPen, Sorry to hear about your situation. With depression and bipolar, you get your emotional swings, ups and downs. Sounds like she is having one of those down moments. Even if you need to sleep on the sofa for weeks or months, so be it. But whatever you do don’t give into her self-defeatin...
by Spleefy
Fri Sep 13, 2019 9:58 pm
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: introducing myself
Replies: 5
Views: 64

Re: introducing myself

Hi HauntedMountain, I used to have anxiety, especially in social settings. I’m not sure if I was born a loner or programmed myself to be via repeated patterns of behavior, such as isolating myself. People used to tell me that it wasn’t good to isolate myself and that I need to socialize more. I foun...
by Spleefy
Fri Sep 13, 2019 7:04 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: My Sad Depression Story
Replies: 2
Views: 157

Re: My Sad Depression Story

You’ve had quite a rocky start to life. It is sad when we don’t receive the love and healthy attention that we all need from our family, especially our parents. I always wished I was close to my family. You are good at reflecting on the past and self-analysis. Yes, depression needs more than medicat...
by Spleefy
Fri Sep 13, 2019 6:14 am
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: New guy
Replies: 1
Views: 100

Re: New guy

Hi Zippo, Welcome. I hope you can make connections here, and feel comfortable at some point discussing your own experiences with depression. You have been on antidepressants for half your life? That is incredible. I find it intriguing that doctors will prescribe antidepressants to people for many ye...
by Spleefy
Thu Sep 12, 2019 5:39 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: Feeling depressed due to turning 30 and having always been single and a virgin
Replies: 8
Views: 223

Re: Feeling depressed due to turning 30 and having always been single and a virgin

Hi Lundi, There is no shame being a virgin. It is better if you give it to someone you love and are married to. Try not to adopt other people’s standards of sex, as most people have low standards when it comes to sexual relations. You need to live your life, not theirs. Dump the peer pressure, and b...
by Spleefy
Thu Sep 12, 2019 5:25 am
Forum: New Member Introductions
Topic: Hi, just a brief one
Replies: 3
Views: 109

Re: Hi, just a brief one

Depression can come in ebb and flows. I wouldn't go as far as to call it "naive" to think you were over depression. It is only natural that you feel this way... nobody wants to live with depression. There is always hope--depression need not be a life sentence. Good on you for managing and ...
by Spleefy
Thu Sep 12, 2019 5:19 am
Forum: Your Story
Topic: I have been raped and I have lost all hope
Replies: 4
Views: 113

Re: I have been raped and I have lost all hope

Hi Zoeyz93, Try to make better choices and associations and things will look up. We humans have the bizarre addiction to self-destructive coping mechanisms. The key to a happier life is to remove those behaviors and replace them with healthier ones. The last thing we need in our lives is to compound...
by Spleefy
Fri Sep 06, 2019 9:28 am
Forum: Living with Depression and other Related Health Concerns
Topic: just looking for an ear to listen!
Replies: 5
Views: 174

Re: just looking for an ear to listen!

Hi wonderwallrose, I see quite a few positives in what you wrote. For starters, your life is just getting started! Second, it’s great that you acknowledge that you are not okay. Because you know that you are not okay, you can at least work towards doing something about it, even if right now you don’...

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